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Monday, July 5th 2010, 5:23pm

Cultural misunderstandings

I was just thinking about some misunderstandings I sometimes have with friends from other countries. Sometimes they seem to think I'm too bold in the things I say and then they feel insulted. While, most of the time, I don't mean to insult them. I'm pretty straightforward in the things I do and say, and sometimes this leads to a lot of misunderstandings between people from other cultures. Though i would describe myself a member of the 'being Dutch and direct, not meaning to offend you'-club.

But what is a cultural misunderstanding exactly? I've been browsing the web and found an interesting article about this phenomenon (although this is between British and American English, but as some of you might know: it's a whole world apart! Not only in geographical distance, but also in language). Cultural misunderstandings

"A cultural misunderstanding occurs when something--a word, gesture, object, social context, almost anything you can think of--has different meanings in two cultures. Sometimes the misunderstandings get resolved, sometimes they lead nowhere, and sometimes they can escalate to anything from love to war."

Now turning to the core of this message: I meant to ask you guys if you ever had any cultural misunderstandings? And if you had, what was it about or what was the problem? 8|
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Thursday, July 8th 2010, 7:15am

I think this is an interesting subject . Misunderstanding is a word created for difference of opinion . It can be within two persons in a family . This is a human nature to agree/disagree on each subject. So each subject and perception within two persons is there then why not in a cultures.

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Thursday, July 8th 2010, 9:26am

very true.
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Thursday, July 8th 2010, 3:43pm

In school we've been talking about different gestures (like thumbs up or victory) which have different meaning in other cultures. It was quite fascinating because the same sign really had totally opposite meanings sometimes... I haven't found an English yet but I guess it'll also exist somewhere. :)

Just by the way, if you move the European 'thumbs up' up and down it has in a few Mediterranean countries but also in Russia, the East and also in different parts of Africa and Australia an obscene meaning! (German Article)
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Thursday, July 8th 2010, 6:23pm

Haven't had major cultural differences yat, well except for some cases of sarcasm that some people take too seriously (which is not only because of cultural differences, but also has an individual input ;))

And as Silvio mentions, that gestures can have a complete different meaning, that is really good to know and tohave in mind, before getting weird reactions from people ;)
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Sunday, August 22nd 2010, 6:13pm

Cultural Misunderstandings

I haven't experienced this yet, but I would rather have a misunderstanding that could be straightened out eventually than have to go through all this political correctness we are experiencing in the US. It's getting so that you are afraid to speak because you might offend someone, or you might unknowingly break one of the "politically correct" rules. It is ridiculous. Most people realize that no one can possibly know everything about another culture, and they understand that mistakes will be made. Most people do not get offended by these mistakes. In fact, I believe that most of us find them humorous. Pollitical correctness, I hope, will soon be a thing of the past. It would be better to allow us to make the mistakes so that we can learn from them rather than to try to make us remain eternally ignorant.
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Sunday, August 22nd 2010, 6:23pm

political correctness we are experiencing in the US
I guess that's not only the case in the US I'm afraid. The same is happening in here in Holland and other countries. I'm confronted with it each day in my studies, but also in meetings of political parties, since I'm an adherent of two: one on a national level, the other on the EU-level. It's quite funny to see how people from different countries tend to respond to other cultures. Usually things can be straightened out, but only if people are open minded enough to admit that they interpreted something wrong. Usually it leads to endless discussions about who is right and who is wrong. Which I could define, in this context, as a huge cultural misunderstanding. :D
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Tuesday, May 24th 2011, 10:03am

I live the cultural misunderstanding.
I'm a Croat ( a passionate Balkanian girl), living in Switzerland, with a Swiss boyfriend.
It was only few months ago that I noticed how many of our arguments and fights are being caused by wrong assumptions, and misunderstandings.

Funny thing also happened in my conversation with Silvio few weeks ago.
We were talking about a problematic question for the linguistics exam, and I was talking how the question is too broad and needs to be narrowed now.
However, at one point Silvio put his hands up from the book and said "hey I didn't even write this asnwer"

I was amazed!
I answered "I'm not saying anything about the answer, but how bad the question is"!
Since, it seemed as if he is defending himself, I din't rly understand why he misunderstood me.
But then I realized how my way of talking is very different than the Swiss one.
I speak louder, I'm more straightforward and talk in a argumentative tone.

I'm still trying to change it, and act and talk differently in Switzerland, but it's hard to "switch".
It's as if two identities are in a fight, pretty confusing......

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Tuesday, May 31st 2011, 12:00pm

I speak louder, I'm more straightforward and talk in a argumentative tone.

Yeah, that's something I realized early on. You are way more straight forward than we are. Well, I don't want to be normative at all, it's just different. I find it very fascinating to discuss with people from abroad simply because of cultural misunderstandings. Doesn't this make it even more intriguing? You simply need to take your time to understand what the differences mean.

@Anna I find it quite interesting to have heated discussions with you about, well, sometimes not really important topics (I suppose you remember the conversation/debate about Cosmopolitan? haha).

Another very interesting issue in Switzerland is the way how we react on the German directness. I suppose most of the troubles in politics (with Germany) we have because we get easily upset if they talk about us in that straight forward way. :rolleyes: I'd say that we Swiss try to be more diplomatic, at least not that impulsive/"aggressive" (uh, it's kinda hard to express what I really want to say here). After all, just not as direct. :) Don't get me wrong, I still like our northern neigbhours. :D
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